It would be a lie to say I’ve always been comfortable going out by myself. Truth is, it took years to be fine with shrugging my shoulders and accepting that I may very well end up at a party or concert where I didn’t know a soul. I do simple daily things alone: I take the train to work, grocery shop, and watch bad reality T.V. I’m sure a lot of you do the same. Yet when it comes to parties, concerts and events, the thought of going alone can strike fear in the heart of even the bravest and most confident of souls.
My journey to being OK alone commenced when I was a 18-year-old college student living in New York City. I had just moved there from Pennsylvania and felt like entire world was at my fingertips. Concerts, readings, Broadway plays, amazing walks around the city. Yet every time I made plans with new friends, they bailed on me. One afternoon, fed up with flakey friends, I marched up to a ticket counter to buy a last minute ticket to a Tori Amos concert that same night. Since I only needed one ticket, I ended up with a front row seat.
I was the universe was sending me a sign: Be fine being by yourself and good things will follow.
After that, I decided not to limit my experiences based on who was or wasn’t available on any given night. This is not to say it wasn’t scary, because sometimes it was, but what I am saying is that it was worth it. I feel lucky in a way that New York taught me the lesson of being adventurous at such a young age, but the truth is, it’s never too late to learn how to go places alone.
What do you think? Do you like to go to parties or events by yourself? Do you think people are hesitant to go out by themselves?