Throughout the past few years, I’ve thought back to times people have mistreated me, and I often find myself thinking about how I could’ve defended myself better. Lately, I’ve been wondering how much I’ve really changed from those days. Would I really have the power to speak up for myself now in any situation? Unfortunately today I was tested.
And you know what? I passed. I stood up for myself.
The situation itself doesn’t necessarily matter, but since I’ve already mentioned it on Twitter, in short I received horrendously terrible customer service from a local jewelry store that was resizing my engagement ring. (Don’t worry the ring is fine, it finally fits perfect, but there was a huge misunderstanding.) It ended with me leaving the store in tears after the store owner yelled at me and an uncaring sales associate told me to “calm down.”
They treated me poorly, but I spoke up for myself.
It wasn’t easy and in the moment everything was moving so fast that I found myself literally thinking, “You have to stand up for yourself here.” I told them what I thought was the right thing to do, and I didn’t allow them to push me around. Sure, I was upset and crying, but I still spoke up for myself.
In a way, this terrible situation was quite empowering because it proved to me that I really can stand up for myself when I need to. While I haven’t always in the past, the story I tell myself about who I am plays a huge role in how I teach others to treat me.
Do you ever wish you could go back and have a “do over” when you haven’t stood up for yourself? Do you stand up for yourself today? Share your thoughts by commenting
Note: My intention here isn’t to defame the shop publicly, which is why I didn’t mention their name. No matter where you go, you should be treated with dignity and respect no matter what.